A UK Bar Will Swipe Left For You If Your Tinder Date Turns South
Too many of us have heard stories — or, unfortunately, have our own stories to tell — of online social interactions turning south.
Even in 2016, when the stigma for online dating is mostly eradicated (eHarmony Australia's 2015 Relationship Study found that online dating is now the second-most popular way to meet new potential partners, according to Bustle), there's no real way to ensure that the person behind the URL will turn out as expected in the natural world.
Sometimes, a bad online date simply happens. Perhaps that smile you loved in the photos just didn’t make a favorable transition from internet-to-life; maybe you just couldn't bear the way your date tried to order your food for you (sit down, Casanova). In other cases, however, a bad online date can feel indicative of something more sinister.
And that’s where this bar in England steps in.
Located in St. Albans in Hertfordshire, The Brickyard has been met with overwhelming support on social media for the sign in their bathroom offering discreet help and guidance to women in the event of a Tinder date gone wrong, Metro reports.
"Tinder date gone wrong?" it asks. "Doesn't look like his picture, or just plain weird?"
"If you're on a date and it's not going well, come to the bar and ask for Rachelle or Jennifer and we'll get you out it and / or get you a taxi," the sign reads. "Your safety is our highest priority.”
"If anyone is bothering you or making you feel uncomfortable please tell us. We will discreetly move them away and if necessary ask them to leave."
Owner of The Brickyard James Hanning tells the Daily News that the sign’s installation was the result of two female patrons asking managers if the men they were meeting resembled the photos they had on their smartphones.
"They were light-hearted conversations, but we realized there was a potential for discomfort and thought that a discrete sign would help give dates the confidence to ask for assistance if things weren’t going well," Hanning says.
And while The Brickyard’s initiative has been roundly commended (The Women's Equality Party St. Albans praised The Brickyard for their "excellent idea" and said they approve on their Facebook page), the staff already has plans to enact a similar safety campaign which will support people who identify as other genders as well.
“The forums have been fantastic at promoting the idea that all hospitality venues should pick up on this,” Hanning tells Mashable. “We have revised our sign to remove the unintended gender bias, realizing that there is a broader issue here and anyone may feel uncomfortable and we are here to help.”
Harassment doesn’t discriminate, and we applaud The Brickyard for recognizing that help should be available to any person who finds themselves in an unsafe situation.